..but has dating really changed that much? As I mentioned here, I haven't been on a date in 2 years. And for nearly 2 years before that, I was in a relationship. Damn. It really has been a while. Whatever, anyway. I haven't been on a first date in upwards of 4 years. I said it.
Now, I haven't been a total recluse. I go to social events (the bar) and I meet guys. I give out my number. (Though I rarely answer/respond to messages.) I hang out with guys. But I haven't been on a date. (Sometimes I do just want to enjoy a glass of wine in the hot tub as opposed to an awkward dinner and small talk about the not-as-good-as-the-trailer movie we just saw.)
And isn't that what a date is supposed to be? Dinner, maybe a movie, small talk, maybe awkward......Not anymore?
A weekend or so ago, I met a guy. It was after being at (read: drinking at) a baseball game all day and the bar all night, so details are a little fuzzy. However, he texted me the next day. I normally wouldn't have responded but (honestly) I was bored. He seemed nice. And after I did a little Facebook stalking, I decided to accept his invitation to get together the next evening.
(Based on his Facebook), he's an engineer in his upper twenties. He wasn't really my type (not everyone can have long hair), but he was cute. What would it hurt to go out with him? At least I'd get free food out of the deal.
But I wouldn't. Because as we talked about plans, I found out that his idea of a date was a movie and drinks. No dinner. But I was still game. I haven't been to the movies in a while and it was a good evening for sitting on the balcony of City Grocery with a beer or two. I could handle that.
But that's not what he had in mind either. Dude wanted to come over to my house, watch a movie on my couch, and drink beer out of my fridge.
I (not so politely) declined.
Please don't tell me that's every guy's idea of a first date?