Wednesday, September 26, 2012

Life Decisions

Two of my best friends are moving to Dallas in a month. Brad is moving to start a new job with his family business. Toni is moving to have a new experience.

And I'm staying right here. For now.

I went with Brad and Toni to Dallas last week to help them look at apartments (and find good bars).

Dallas has been one of my favorite cities since I first visited there when I was 8 years old. I planned to move there after college.

When I graduated, I applied for a few jobs. I got phone interviews. I made it to second and third rounds. And then I was told, "you don't have enough job experience". So, a job opened up in Oxford and I stayed.

I work for the University, so I can take 2 classes per semester for free. FREE. The online MBA program just happens to be 2 years at 2 classes a semester. It starts this January.

My plan was to get an MBA for free. Or at least half free. That would put me staying in Oxford until January 2014 at the earliest, 2015 if I stay here for the full 2 years. (I would still complete my MBA if I left -- just wouldn't get the second year free.)

But after visiting and being in Dallas as an adult -- do I want to stay in small town Oxford, MS 30 miles from where I grew up and the only other place I've lived after high school for 1-2 more years? Or am I just wasting 1-2 of my prime years that I could be spending in big city Dallas, TX?

Is a free MBA worth it? Do I need an MBA at all?

Oxford is a lovely town and will always hold my heart -- but do I want to live here, in this college town, until I'm 27? Am I missing experiences that I should be having as a young adult?

I need advice.


  1. Well, I can't comment on the MBA. That's not really my thing, and I don't know much about the business world so I can't speak to the importance or non-importance of one. Buuuut, I can say that had I never left DC, I would not have matured the way that I have. I've had opportunities here I wouldn't have had in MS, and that's a good thing. So I guess, I'd encourage you to leave. Move somewhere where there's a big population of people our age doing cool things. Being in that type of environment really encouraged me to be ambitious and try new things myself.

    Just my two cents!

  2. I think you should maybe try and get some of the MBA paid for--it's a HUGE relief to not have that debt to worry about. And then I think you should move to the big city and have that adventure. Unless you don't really need/want an MBA, then I'd say to leave now and enjoy the city life in your "prime". It kind of depends on what YOU want :)

  3. I'm not usually one to butt into such a serious topic with my first comment (LOVE your blog, by the way. I read it all the time) but I'm in the Dallas camp on this one. Personally speaking, I'm finishing my undergrad 15 minutes away from where I grew up and surrounded by all the people I love. But in May, I'm packing up and moving to PA to not only be with a good guy, but also for a new adventure. It's that feeling you get in your soul when you know you need something new. It has to be a true feeling, something that makes you look around and wonder why you're still here.

    I see the reason for staying (FREE TUITION IS NEALRY THE BEST THING ON THE PLANET) but the adventure you could create seems to be a much bigger calling to me. It's nice to have friends there too, as a back up to the other adventures you'd have.

    It's a big decision. Do you want the MBA because you like the stuff it'll teach you, or because it's nearly paid for and it's something you should have? It sounds like you're ready for something new, but ultimately it's up to you and what you really want, not what you think you should want.

    Again, moving sounds like the better option. But it has to be because you want it, otherwise you won't get as much out of it.

    Also (just to make this the longest comment ever), you're never out of your "prime" years. It's all up to definition with that.

    1. Kaylee - this is Brad (yes the Brad pictured above) - I love your comment and I don't think you could have put it any better. Fayedra you know I love you dearly and I have seriously been thinking about this. Dip your toe in and see what you can find (so you can be with me and Toni). If you get a job that pays more than you make now take it (so you can be with me and Toni). The MBA will always be there if/when you want it. It may not be free, but then again you may never use it. Life is an adventure, so jump in the deep end (gay)!

      [This comment is not biased at all (so you can be with me and Toni)]

    2. I'm all for non-biased comments.

      Totally sounds that way too, Brad. Also, I feel pretty special you picked my comment out of the other ones to tell Faye she should have fun (with Toni and Brad).

      Sounds like you've got a good support group behind you and they want what's best for you (to be with Toni and Brad).

      If we say it enough, does it become like a mantra?

  4. Like Kaylee, this is my first comment on your blog too (hi!) and I love it! I think you really should listen to your heart on this one, but don't completely forget about your head either. If I were to listen 100% to my heart, I would be living in South Carolina, but instead I'm living in Michigan. I've decided to stay in Michigan because right now I'm in a grad program and not only is the program awesome, but it's cheap! Way cheaper than the out of state tuition I would pay in SC. My heart is just aching to move right away, but I know that in the long run I will be better off financially and that will eliminate SO much stress! Two years is such a short amount of time when you think about your whole life :) Good luck with whatever you decide!

  5. If you don't think you are missing out on something by spending the majority of your young adult life within a 30 mile radius of the place you grew up, then you are not as smart as you think you are. There is a whole lot more to life than Ole Miss football and the Library.

    1. I'm pretty sure that's EXACTLY what she said... that there is much more for her to discover and that maybe she should move away from home. Looks like YOU may not be as smart as you think you are... comprehension is obviously not your strong point.

    2. what kind of person leaves a rude anonymous comment? If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all jackass (whoops...slipped)

  6. In my therapist voice...

    Faye, if you have to question staying, you already are half way out the door.

    Pray on it. When you don't know what to do, do nothing. I teach my clients this all the time. Be still in where you are. It's ok to just be still. The answer will come without you forcing it to. I promise ;)

  7. do what your heart tells you....but you are only young maybe this would be the perfect time to move to a new city and start a new adventure. You don't want to regret anything.