Wednesday, March 26, 2014

Where Do You See Yourself?

My life is nowhere close to what I thought it would be one year ago, five years ago, or ten years ago. I mean, nowhere.

At no time in my life would I have guessed that I'd ever wear sparkles.

Ten years ago, I was 16. I was in a serious* relationship with my high school sweetheart who, looking back, wasn't really all that sweet to me. My life consisted of cheerleading practice and studying. I knew that I would have to keep up my grades and extra-curriculars to get a scholarship to college. And I did. But also, my mindset at 16 was that by 26, I'd be married with children. Obviously, I was getting married right after high school and then going to college. After college, I'd get a job and we'd have kids. Boy, was I naive. 

*High school relationships are not serious. They may last past high school and you might even marry your high school sweetheart and live happily ever after. But you don't know that yet. You don't really know anything yet. Except maybe the value of Pi. 

My friend here did get married immediately after HS graduation. It did not work out.

Five years ago, I was in a fun but thisisgoingnowhere relationship. So let's jump to four years ago. I had just ended that relationship, was about to graduate college, and making big plans for my future. I was nervous, but knew that I'd move to a big city. Dallas, Austin, and Boston were my front runners. I tweaked my resume, wrote a million cover letters, and sent follow up emails like it was my job. (Well, I guess if that was my job I wouldn't need to do all that to get a job? Anyway.) When I looked 4 years down the road, to where I am now, I saw myself working for a large corporation in a big city. Maybe dating, maybe not. I'd be living in a loft apartment with exposed brick walls and white furniture and I'd sip 5 o'clock martinis with coworkers every day.

I actually do still want this apartment. 

One year ago, I was painfully single and I kinda hated my job. I wasn't painfully single in the way that I was dying to meet Mr. Right, I was just sick and tired of dealing with all of the Mr. Wrongs. On the job front, I had been given a ton of extra responsibilities with no extra pay or incentives. It was overwhelming and was beginning to look like it wasn't worth sticking around. At this point, I didn't have much hope for the future. I assumed that in one year, I'd be in the same exact boat. Single and stuck in the lulls of dating in a small, college town and settling with a job that was just mediocre. 

Oh, also, I was about 30 pounds heavier.

I'm so thankful that I was wrong each time. I didn't run off and get married right after high school. I didn't move away to a big city and get lost in the corporate world. And I can say that, a year from my last guess for the future, I am not still single and in an unfulfilling job. 

Today, I am in a very happy and healthy relationship (with Mr. Right). In fact, we're moving in together next month. 

I am in the same job, but have since been recognized for my work. A few months ago, I was given a title change and a pretty hefty salary increase. Also, even though I never had the chance to move to a big city…my job gives me the flexibility to travel and take numerous vacations. 

If I were asked to guess where I'll be one year from now, five years from now, or ten years from now…I would simply say, "no thanks". Life isn't about guessing where you'll be in the future. It's about enjoying the now. And boy, I sure am.

Are you?

Thursday, March 20, 2014


I'm a planner. I'll admit, I can be a little uptight when it comes to making and breaking plans. I will adapt when I must, but I'd much rather have a detailed plan or at least an idea of where the night is headed. 

uptight - adjective - anxious or angry in a tense and overly controlled way

Being spontaneous is not my specialty. A is helping me change that. He is a very go with the flow kind of guy. He can make plans (or change plans) in 5 minutes, while I prefer an hour or so to think it over. 

Spontaneous - adjective - performed or occurring as a result of a sudden inner impulse or inclination and without premeditation or external stimulus.

Last night, I was rambling to him about my potential plans.

"My sister is going to Grillehouse and she invited me and I really want to go because I would love a steak but I don't need to go because I need to stay home and do some laundry. But. Steak. I'm going. No. I need to go to Kroger, too. I can't go. I'm not going. But. Steak."

His response?

"Tell me what you need from Kroger. I'll pick it up. And I'll get steaks. And we'll cook at home tonight while you do your laundry."

So, we had a delicious and impromptu steak dinner.

This is not something I'm used to, as my meals are always pre-planned. For example, I knew a week ago that I'm making chicken tacos tonight and tomato basil soup this Sunday.

After dinner, he needed to run some errands in town. I was about to put on my pjs and go to bed, but I decided to go with him instead. And then we decided to duck into Proud Larry's for a minute. And then we decided to stay for the bands. 

So thanks to A and his spontaneity, I have 2 new bands to share with you.

Cereus Bright
Swear and Shake


Tuesday, March 18, 2014

My Best Friend's Wedding

I had the honor of being a bridesmaid in the Walker Wedding at the beginning of February. Not only are Rachel and Andrew two of my best friends and one of my favorite couples, but they are the best wedding throwers around. It had all the ingredients of a kickass wedding. 

A very much in love couple.

Pretty dresses.


And dancing.

That's all you really need, right? 

Plus, I caught the bouquet. Look out, A.

To see more of the wedding and to follow Rachel along on her new journey as a Mrs., go check out the relaunch of her blog at Rachel Rewritten.

Thursday, March 13, 2014


I confess…

…I'm really trying to get back into blogging, but I can't seem to find my voice. Before I was in a relationship, I scoffed at the lovey blogs who only talked about the "bf" or the "hubs" (but I never stopped reading them). I wrote about horrible dating stories and my crushes on celebrities. Now, I just want to write lovey things about my bf. Gross.

…I haven't worked out regularly since early December. I haven't been eating very healthy either. I've put on about 5 pounds so far this year, which isn't really a lot except for the fact that since this time last year, I've been constantly losing about 2-3 pounds a month. It's a major step back for me. I'm going to the beach in 60 days, so it's time to get into gear.

…I'm extremely disappointed in the lineup for Hangout Music Fest this year. When it came out, I wasn't too impressed, but decided that it would still be fun. There are a lot of bands that I will be seeing for the first time (Outkast, The Killers, Modest Mouse, Queens of the Stoneage) and a few bands that I have seen before and loved (The Black Keys, The Avett Brothers, The Flaming Lips). Plus, it's on the beach. But now that other music fests are releasing their lineups, I see how lackluster the lineup really is. Props to them for recognizing this and adding Matt & Kim, Caked Up!, and a few more artists that I'm excited about.

…I've been a bit of a Debbie Downer lately (I'm about to start my period) so I decided to join #100HappyDays to make an attempt at focusing on the great things in my life that make me happy on a daily basis. I also confess that I will likely not finish the 100 days because I'm forgetful and a procrastinator. But I sure am gonna try. [Follow along on Instagram] 

…I am so behind on TV shows this season, but I keep adding new ones. I haven't finished Sons of Anarchy or started Girls. But I watched all of True Detective. I'm way behind on How I Met Your Mother and Men at Work, but I'm about to start Looking. Every new commercial for Pretty Little Liars contains some sort of spoiler for me, but I think I want to watch House of Cards.

What do you have to confess? And what TV shows are you watching?

Wednesday, March 12, 2014

BirchBox Review - February

My February BirchBox was a little meh. And February is my birthday month…what's up with that? 

I did find one product that I love, though. Here's what I got.

This stuff is Heaven. I already have soft skin, but my skin is even smoother after using this product. I've been using it every morning and night and my face is looking a lot fresher these days. I immediately purchased the full-size for $26.95 

This little tool is pretty nifty. I've used it a few times for a top knot and a low bun. I got the "Half-Up", but my hair is so thin and fine that it all fits in there. If you have a lot of hair, you might have to check out The Wrap-Up.

No. This is color for your eyes, cheeks, and lips? I barely wear makeup. I brush on a little blush and I brush on a little eye shadow. I can't do pasty things on my face. I tried to use it for lip color, but it was too chalky. Not a fan.

This lotion feels super soft, but the Pomegranate scent was overwhelming. I might consider buying another scent. But then again, I kinda prefer my Jergens.

I went to the doctor a couple weeks ago because I thought I had Strep Throat. The Strep test came back negative and Doc wrote me a prescription for "Tea with Honey and Lemon". But I still never made this tea. Oops.

My March box is here and I'm a little more excited about its contents!

*My BirchBox find was Jergens BB Body Cream.

Saturday, March 1, 2014


Hey, 2014. Slow it down. Is it really March already?

I was 90% on my February goals. I put away all the old cards that were making my planner weigh a million pounds. I did not move the guest bed into my bedroom, but I still plan to. I began reading a book, but have not yet finished it. I tried to read Divergent. But. My favorite childhood book was The Giver. My favorite book of all time is Anthem by Ayn Rand. I felt like I wouldn't be able to get into the story because I'd be too busy comparing this book to those. So, I started The Fault in Our Stars but am not quite finished. Half completion. I set up my budget for March and even put it in a fancy little binder. I also signed up for Snap Fitness and set up a workout schedule that includes their Bootcamp and Yoga classes. 

March Goals

1. Sunday clean day

2. Relaxation baths

3. Read a non-fiction book

4. Work out 2x/week

5. Handwritten cards

Every Sunday, I will do at least one load of laundry, change my sheets, and vacuum my bedroom. 

I hardly ever take baths, but I love them. Once a week in March, I'll take a nice relaxing bath (likely with a glass of wine).

Memoirs used to be my favorite books, but I haven't read one in a while. I'm gonna pick one up this month. Any suggestions? 

To get my money's worth from Snap Fitness, I need to workout at least twice a week. I plan to go more than that, but as long as I go two times every week, I will have fulfilled my goal.

I missed birthdays in February and some of my favorites are in March, too. I need to stock up on cards so that I have them on hand when I need to send one.

How are you holding up on your goals so far this year?